I’ve had a few people call me nuts for the level of involvement I’ve had on the blog’s comment threads this week. It’s been a bit hectic, but the truth is, I believe in discourse. Even when someone comes forward with an argument that I vehemently disagree with, if it’s presented in a respectful way, I’m going to post it, and I’m going to respond in kind (with exception of comments that make people feel unsafe – see here).
That being said, if someone wants to try to participate in the conversation without a) reading the piece, b) reading the comments, or c) supporting their own comments in a reasonable and respectful manner, I’m probably going to mock them for it. Not because of their beliefs (even if I do believe some to be worthy of mocking), but because their comment – in perpetuating horrific ideas in the face of evidence to the contrary – makes a mockery of real dialogue.
While this may turn some people off from the conversation, the bulk of those individuals weren’t going to participate in a meaningful way to begin with. Maybe that open mockery of their statements will deter others from perpetuating rape culture in their comments. Maybe it will give victims hope that someone’s willing to pick up the fight for them. In any case, I’m not having it.
And so, obvious troll is obvious:
Shaun Wed, Mar 20, 2013 To: Lauren
Miss Nelson:First let me start off by saying that these are not athletes. Secondly, I go on the philosophy that if you get thrown out a window, you probably deserved it. You are the company you keep and surround yourself with. Some get excited with danger around the corner, invited or not. Others when they don’t get their way, play victim. We can go on for lifetimes about how drinking was involved, but are we always born yesterday?
Milk the Cow named Awareness, but you see that’s the problem.
My analogy is the Gay Culture and Marijuana Culture. The bastardizing of the movement you are wanting to prevail. I get it , you are gay , I don’t need it shoved in my face to show you respect. Just like the Cheech and Chong sub-culture that ruins it for the rest of us recreational users. Media spin, Shoving it in the Face promotion is not the way to go . Same thing with the Atheist. It seems like they want to start their own religion as well.
P.S. I in no way feel sorry for these non-athletes and they deserve punishment most upheld to the law.
Lauren Wed, Mar 20, 2013 To: Shaun
Hey there,I am SO glad you took the time to fill my inbox with hatred. There really isn’t enough of that going around these days; you’ve provided me with a fix until more people come around to the idea that bigotry is – in fact – the wave of the future.
Disregarding your complete disregard for basic facts, I truly want to thank you for being a shining beacon of rape culture. From the way you talk about victims desiring danger to the way you criticize all these drunken lying whores for inviting their attacker to assault them, your line of argument (can I call it that?) is just so intensely medieval that you’ve inspired me to really devote myself to the perpetuation of patriarchy, misogyny and slut shaming. It is simply impossible to resist the appeal of your lack of logic, warrants and basic human compassion. You have changed me at my core.
Your proposal to stop talking about all of these issues is truly visionary. The eloquent discourse of Martin Luther King Jr. provides the perfect example of how refusing to back down from the rhetorical call to arms is a death knell for any movement focused on equality.
Again, thank you so much for this life-altering exchange. You are truly a man among men.
P.S. You’re out of your league here.